If there is one thing mentally tough people miss out on, its FOMO. FOMO, for the uninitiated is the Fear Of Missing Out, which according to the Urban Dictionary and other sources, is “a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity or satisfying event that may currently be happening elsewhere”.
The reason mentally tough people generally don’t suffer from FOMO is simply because they don’t feel they are missing out. Mentally tough people have developed a self sufficient mindset and framework that gives them assurance and confidence that they are doing the things they want to do with the people they want to do it with.
The MTQ48 4C’s framework is a strong, simple, effective and scientifically valid framework to use anywhere 24X7. The 4C’s framework comprises 4 characteristics which each reflect a component of the Mental Toughness personality trait:
Control means having a sense of self-worth and describes the extent to which a person feels in control of their life and their circumstances. Also, importantly it describes the extent to which they can control the display of their emotions. A mentally tough person with high control will usually just “get on with it” irrespective of how they feel and work through emotionally charged situations without seemingly being distracted or derailed. This ‘calm’ and positive approach can also often lift the spirits of those around them.
Commitment is about goal orientation and ‘stickability’ and describes the extent to which someone is prepared to set goals and make measurable promises that, once made, they will work hard to deliver on. A mentally tough person with high commitment can usually be relied upon to set goals and targets and do what they need to do to achieve them.
Challenge describes the extent to which the individual will push back their boundaries, embrace change and accept risk. It’s also about how they see all outcomes – good and bad. Mentally tough people with a high ‘Challenge’ score view challenges, change and adversity as opportunities rather than threats and will relish the chance to learn and grow in the new and hitherto unknown situation. Someone whose challenge score is high will typically enjoy new places, new people, innovation and creativity and become quickly bored by routine.
Confidence completes the picture and describes the self-belief an individual has in their own abilities and the interpersonal confidence they possess to influence others and deal with conflict and challenge. When faced with a challenge, mentally tough people scoring high in confidence will possess the self belief to deal with the situation and the inner strength to stand their ground when needed. Their confidence enables them to represent their view boldly and be comfortable in handling objections.
With a picture of FOMO in mind, a mentally tough person is generally calm and in control of their own destiny. They have a plan and are organised at setting and achieving goals and targets to reach that plan. They embrace change and new situations and opportunities but know that a setback or failure is a learning opportunity. Missing out may be frustrating but they will be one step closer to not missing out next time. It’s all cool.
Since mentally tough people are self confident they will probably shrug their shoulders and think that it’s not much of an event anyway if they aren’t there.
So, mentally tough people generally miss out on FOMO but rarely miss out on achieving their long term goals because they are outcomes focused and determined to achieve their goals without being diverted and distracted.